7 Myths About Adulting You Need to Kick to the Curb
According to Urban Dictionary, “adulting” is defined as: to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting on social media, etc).
I’ve seen a lot of my friends begin adulting over the years. Although there were mistakes made along the way, they handled it well! But I’ve seen a lot of others try and avoid it. They still rely on their parents' wallet and don't know how to do laundry, all because they were afraid. However, their fears were not even valid. They were lies they told themselves and even worse, they believed.
Adulting does not need to be big, scary unattainable goals that you may never fully reach. Because truth is, we’re all adulting in our 20’s, whether we like it or not. Since we entered into adulthood at 18, we are all expected to clean up after ourselves, be responsible with our money, and just be a decent member of society. But in order to feel comfortable and own it, we need to get rid of those fears (aka myths) we have about being a full-functioning adult.
1. You’re not emotionally ready
Bull. Just bull. My mom still cries at Hallmark commercials, but she’s been killing it as an adult for years now. You don’t need to be super emotionally stable to be an adult. You just go with it!
2. You won't be able to make friends
Remember when you were a kid going into the first day of school or camp and after you told your mom or dad that you don’t have any friends, they said something like, “Go up to them and introduce yourself!” It’s the same thing as an adult.
3. You're not responsible enough
Here’s the thing with this myth: if you’re afraid of it, chances are you’re more responsible than the other 20somethings NOT considering this as they enter adulthood. It's kind of funny, but it’s true. Don’t sweat it, just get a planner and you're good to go.
4. You won't be able to get a job post-grad
Yea, chances are you might have to go on a few interviews before you land your dream job. Big deal. You’ll find it, and until then, just enjoy the ride.
5. You should have found your soulmate by now
Oh stop. You’re 20something years old! With the direction modern medicine is headed, you’re probably going to live past 100. He’s coming girl, you do you for now and he’ll come when you least expect it. I promise.
6. You stop learning after college
I hope none of you actually think this. I have probably learned more in the last two months since I graduated than I did in my whole life! The thing is, you are in charge of your own education and just because you’re not in school anymore doesn’t mean you don’t learn. Take a course, read a book, listen to a podcast, or watch a TED talk. Learning takes place in many different forms, so pick one and go for it!
7. You have to have the next 5-10 years mapped out
Ohhhhhhhhmygosh. I don’t have the next 5 months mapped out, but the next 5 years? I can’t even imagine planning that far in advance, yet I’m the biggest planner I know! This is a huge myth for us 20somethings. Just take it one day at a time and figure life out as you go. It will work out!
So there’s the list of common fears of adulting. Can you relate to any of these? If you can, will you comment below with “#guilty”? K great, glad you’ll play along. Thanks love!